Update on Haili

Well this is my first and only blog post so bare with me. This is Brock; Haili wanted me to make a post so that everyone knows what is going on with her and how she is doing. At the end of the post I will post a few pictures so if you don't want to see them, don't scroll down.

A few months ago haili started getting intense pains in her bowels. We took her to ER on two different occasions and one time they told us that she had pregnancy pains and the FLU. The Second time they gave her high amounts of Morphine and Dilaudid and it didn't even work. That is some intense pain! They did an MRI and came to the conclusion that she has Intusseption (When part of your bowel swallows/overlaps the other part.). They then sent us home and told us that there was nothing we could do since she is pregnant. All they instructed us to do were to wait and if the pain lasts longer than 6 hours to go into the ER. Over the next few weeks Haili endured these pains for hours at a time.

On Monday night I dropped Haili off at work at 7pm. At 2am Tuesday morning she called me and asked me to come get her and that an episode was starting again. I took her home and within minutes she said she had to go to the hospital. I grabbed her and took her to Labor and Delivery instead of the ER. We got her there and they gave her some Dilaudid, and it didn't touch her pain again. The Nurse there realized that this is something that needs to be dealt with and not dismissed. They gave her an epidural and then ordered a CT scan. After the results came back our room was bombarded with Nurses, Doctors, Surgeons, Residents, etc... They said her bowels are twisted and had no blood in them. They said they had to get her to the OR immediately or that she would die.

The first Surgery was Tuesday morning and after the Doctor (Stevens) came out and said that what she has is very serious. It is called MAL-ROTATION of the BOWEL. When we are still in the womb our insides go out from our body, rotate and then go back in. When she was in the womb it did not rotate/or rotate correctly. Usually it causes pain to the infant from 1 month to 1 year. Haili lived a pain free life until she got pregnant and her uterus started expanding. The Surgeon said that when they opened her up that her Bowels were Black and dark Purple instead of Pink. They were going to remove her Bowels and put her on an IV Feed for the rest of her life. Given that she is 22 yrs old and pregnant, they decided to take a chance to give her a normal life. They took out bowels out and untwisted them 720 degrees. When her bowels twisted it cut off all the blood flow and thus caused the pain. As they untwisted them they noticed that a few parts started getting some good color back. They made a decision to leave her open for 8 hours to give her bowels a chance to heal.

The following 8 hours were tough. She was intibated and paralyzed since they could not have her move, cough, etc... Her stomach was wide open with plastic covering the bowels. There were worries about the Baby and whether or not she would need to be delivered or even survive all that Hail’s body was going through. At 8pm surgery started again and a few hours later the surgeon came out and told us what had happened. He said that 60% of her bowels he regained the PINK color. He said that he was cautiously optimistic that Haili might be alright. They decided to leave her open once more but this time until Thursday morning. They wanted to give her bowels more time to heal. The options of the third surgery were:

1) See that they are healed and sew her back up.
2) Cut out the dead parts of the bowel and stitch the good parts together.

This was a big risk in itself since she was contracting a little bit, she has the chance of infection and other effects. On Wednesday afternoon they took the paralytic medicine off and she woke up very slowly, but only to have her arms tied down and sedatives in place so that she would not move or freak out. All she could do was nod her head yes or no to questions and eventually write questions she had on pieces of paper. She was miserable and in very bad shape. She handled the tubes, in mouth, throat, nose very well and remained calm.

Thursday morning they operated one last time. It went great! The Surgeons were amazed that her bowels had just about healed (with the exceptions of a few dark spots). They sewed her back up and since then she has been in the Shock Trauma ICU. In the last few days she has had some Ups and some Downs. She has had some post surgery complications but has fought through them. She has been very strong. She is still very weak and tired. It is hard to talk to her since she does not have much energy, however between writing on paper and whispering words she has managed to keep her sense of humor. Things are looking good and it will be a long road to recovery. We are so fortunate that so many Doctors and Nurses gave extra care to her. Everyone in the whole hospital knew about her and would have done anything for her. We are thankful that this time a Surgeon had the courage to open up a 22 year old pregnant woman without really knowing what he was going to see. If he would have waited she would have died. With the exception of a few crappy doctors that led up to this event, we received above and beyond care from the best Doctors in the state.

We have witnessed a MIRACLE. She either should have died, lost the baby, or lost her bowels. She went from WORST CASE scenario to BEST CASE! We are so grateful for all the prayers, Phone Calls, Texts, Flowers, Fast’s, etc... We will never know who all prayed for us, or who all fasted us (There were many) but to those of you who did and are still doing so, THANK YOU!!! We know that through all these things Haili was saved and so was our baby (Grace). We still need your payers since this is not over yet.

Thank you everyone!






After Surgery #1


After Surgery #2



After Surgery #3

Busy Busy

Sewing:
I have been sewing like a crazy lady trying to get everything ready. my goal is to have everything finished by the middle of november!!! I know I know its a crazy goal but.... I just have to !! BECAUSE ......


We are under contract on a duplex that i am IN LOVE with !! a quick description is it has white brick on the outside, great landscaping, 4 bedrooms 2 baths 2 fireplaces a garage!!! I am so so excited.. Brock keeps telling me not to get my emotions involved and i have to look at it as an investment but come on i have to live there right??? anyway the one side that we are renting out, the people have been living there for like 5 years and dont plan on really moving ever ! which is so exciting... we did have to have he other side move out. On the side we are moving into needs just a few things updated. mostly carpet/flooring, windows, and of course paint. So thats why my goal is the middle of november to be done with baby stuff because... we are planning on closing end of october/beginning of november cant move in until 30 days after --unless the people living in there right now move out sooner. So lets keep our fingers crossed that everything goes as planned !!!
xoxox
HAILI

Feeling Good !!

Just a quick update!! I have only had one little episode in the last week !!! Thanks so much for all of your comments/calls and especially your prayers !!!

For some new news .......... Brock and I have been looking at buying a house/duplex/etc. and I think we found one!!! we are in the middle of negotiations so as soon as its all straightened out i will post pics and all of the fun stuff !!! but just know that i am so so so so so... excited !!!

one of those sappy blog posts

I am not the most mushy person in the world. And basically I like to keep my private matters just like that private. i think thats what make me such a bad blogger!! But... I am going to go out of my comfort zone a bit and publisize (i dont know if thats a word) my private !! From the previous post you understand kinda the sitution I am in. Through all of this I have briefly told you that brock was great, but i wanted to tell you how great !!!!
You know what a little bunny rabbit looks like when you put a spot light on it, or a deer in headlights look??? The first time I had my pain--in idaho--although i didnt get to see him when my mom told him she was taking me to the hospital and he needed to hurry and get there, I imagine brock having that look on his face. When he first got to the hospital he immediately came and sat on my bed gave me a quick kiss, rubbed my arm and asked if he could do anything for me. The whole time i was in that hospital bed I saw a look of desperation on his face although my family was joking around me and we were giggling here and there Brock was paying attention to and anticipating my every need. The nurse said i needed to drink water so brock came and sat on my bed again and tried to get it down me. even though we went home thinking i was just dehydrated Brock carried me downstairs, put me in bed, brought me some water just in case i needed it, and warmed me up since i was still shivering.
now i know these sound like simple easy tasks that you think to yourself well if my loved one were in this situation i would probably do the same thing...and maybe you would. Brock did!!
I am not going to take you through each hospital visit But i will tell you that since i work nights and have to catch up on my sleep during the days I have kinda been the worst house wife ever. I have woke up some days to Brock having the house spotless--dishes done, carpets vaccuumed. the whole 9 yards!!
The last but not least, the last "episode" that i had lasted from about 6:30 to about 4 in the morning. It was bearable but brock sat by my side the ENTIRE time. for the first hour he drove me around because we thought it would take my mind off it. Then everytime my breathing changed because my pain would get more intense i would see brock stop what he was doing and put his full attention on me. He called the hospital and demanded to talk to the oncall OB at 3 in the morning. He refused to go to bed because he didnt want me to go through this alone....
I honestly dont know who reads my blog and unless you are some creep putting the heads of my pictures on inappropriate pictures i dont care that ya do in fact welcome i hope you enjoy your stay..... I just dont think that i am as kind and thoughtful and caring as Brock has been. I have been blessed to have been able to marry him! I have been blessed to have such an amazing man that is selfless, caring, and attentive to me and my every need. I am so greatful that brock is a worthy priesthood holder. I know that my pain has been lessened because of his faith. During times of struggle it is sometimes difficult to see the bigger picture, Brock has continually given me strength by helping me increase my faith and showing me a christlike example. i say that i love him and i do so so so much but it just doesnt feel like the right word... i wish there was more that i could say because what i think & feel for this sweet man seems like so much more !!!!

Health Update

Ya know when it just seems like everything in your life is going wrong and the onlything left to say is well at least you have your health..... well things have actually been going pretty good but my health is on this roller coaster!!! So here is what is going on.

A couple of weeks ago i had what we will call an "episode." What happens is, i get nausea/vomiting and then my stomach starts hurting. it burns aches and cramps. i also get the hot sweats, and as much as it embarasses brock i have to strip down to my birthday suit put ice packs on me and a fan. TMI?? This pain lasts for about 3-4 hours and then as soon as it is gone i get chills and start shivering for about an hour. these "episodes" have been happening every couple of days without any warning. the first time i went to the ER they thought i was dehydrated from all of the vomiting. so they hooked me up to some IV fluids and sent me home. my 2nd ER trip they gave me as much morphine and dilaudid as i could get all the while i was still screaming from pain, did a ultrasound and found nothing... so i got an MRI.. they found that i have an intussusception of my bowel... google it..

SO. my options are.... drum roll.....


Surgery, oh but wait! I cant have surgery because my intussusception fixes itself and it doesnt cut off the blood flow well at least yet.. So my dr's orders are wait for the pain to last for 6 hours then maybe your bowel is dead come in and we will take a look and see if we can do surgery... oh yeah this also would be super high risk because of your pregnancy. oh and also we dont really see this in adults usually its babies so you are kinda our first patient that we have ever seen with this....

so my brilliant Ob sends me to a gastroenterologist--he knows about bowels right... I paid $50 for a specialist to sit down with me retell me everything that they told me at the hospital and the only dietary advice he has is to stay hydrated.... Thanks doc can i have my $50 dollars back so i can shove it up your bum and make you feel the pain that i have been feeling and then maybe you will be a little more interested and advise something more then hydration.

so thats whats going on...as far as what can be done ---- basically nothing until my bowel dies. I would like to thank all those that have prayed and fasted for me this has been a difficult process and your support means alot. my next step i guess is to meet with a surgeon. until then we are gonna keep praying that i dont have anymore "episodes"

xoxo Haili

p.s. Brock has been amazing through all of this I am so so greatful to have him as a husband. he is the best !! love ya !!

BIRTHDAY BOY !!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to this Cute boy !!!!(now 26)

Today is Brock's Special day so i wanted to give a little shout out to him. I love this guy more and more every day, and with every new experience that we go through. Recently I have been having some health problems i guess you could say and Brock has gone above and beyond what i think any average husband would go. He has put up with me screaming at the top of my lungs, held me when i cried, made me laugh when it was the last thing i wanted to do. I know this picture is of a little boy, but the man that i married is amazing !! Yeah there are time when he acts about the age he is in that picture, but i love him for it. So brock when you read this thank you so much for being the husband you are. I love you more then ever and am so glad we get to spend forever together. You are going to be the best dad ever. I hope you have the best birthday ever !!!!! XOXO Haili & baby

FAIR TIME

As all of you should know I LOVE the fair!! in particular the Eastern Idaho State fair. This year Brock and I only got to go 2 nights and it was a little bit disappointing..... here are my reasons.

1. Eden was playing volleyball the days we were there so it was only logical for us to go watch her play while we were there --- meaning our fair time was severly cut down. We got there about 7 and left about 10ish....

2. I WAS SICK... oh boy was i sick. Brock and I sped up to Idaho thursday morning right after i got off work, that day brock had to work in pocatello so my mom met us and took me home. BUT... not before i woofed my cookies right in front of the key bank as all of the tellers and workers were walking in & not to mention it was right by a stop light where there was some road construction. did i feel stupid--- Nope... in fact i did my business and went on my way. thursday night I got super super sick---and dehydrated and had some wierd pains going on so we made a visit to the doc... NO worries everything is fine but the way i felt i thought i was dying and if i was gonna die I at least wanted something to dull the pain. but all i got was a bunch of IV fluid. our little baby was pretty stressed out but when i finally (after 3-4 hours) got rehydrated she was a little bit happier. ALSO----what i found to be SO RUDE was this--- I still consider myself an idahoan. well as i was getting checked in and everything eden was sitting outside and could hear the nurses fighting over who was going to take me because i was "from utah" those big retards if they only knew i was the best patient they would ever have. so Bingham memorial expect a call about hippa violations, and discrimination-- you made this idaho/utah pregnant lady a bit upset.

MOVING ON.....
3. While I was at the fair...... OH BOY! I love seeing people that i havent seen for a while and catching up...its probably on the top 5 reasons to go to the fair. well what Brock and I laughed about for hours is that we saw probably 4-5 of my ex-boyfriends that i dated OVER 4 years ago and every single on of them ducked their heads or tried to avoid eye contact every time we saw them. Brock thinks i must have just been bad at breaking up with them, and they took it a little too hard or something. and i just dont get it....but i do think it is funny-- lets be honest here I love my husband more than anything. he is the best man i have EVER met. but just as he has people he dated before so do i. Brock kinda loved them and left them. but i thought i was friends with these people and its just weird that they would act so crazy---- ok my rant is over but i thought it was humorous.

4. THE BIGGEST LOSER. Brock, my mom, Britni & my dad are doing a family biggest loser. The entry fee to get in was $200 a person so the winner will actually be taking home $600. it started in august and the last weigh in is at State Volleyball October 30. so far Brock has lost about 16 pounds (and is looking mighty fine!!) and everybody else about 5-6. Brock would like to still loose about 15 more pounds, and if he does nobody will be able to touch him and he will be the winner!!! But...lets just say the fair wasnt a good place to go while on a diet. The first night i was there i ate scone nuggets-prime rib sandwich-trout-chocolate covered cheesecake- and basically snacked on whatever was around.

I do love the fair but i didnt even get to make it all around the circle more then 1 time. or ride any rides or buy me a really big cotton candy. I know this sounds kinda like a grumpy post but i still love the fair and i had a wonderful time in idaho! and i cant wait for next year. we didnt get too many pictures, maybe when we make it to the utath state fair !!! thank heavens the utah state fair is going on this week and you better believe i will be there at least once to see if i can get my fair fill !!!